Frequently asked questions
Is it sex?
No, OM is not sex. It’s a meditative practice that is sexual in nature, and it is not a sex act. Both partners may feel sensations throughout their bodies and may even feel aroused. The practice is not a replacement for sex but instead a supplement. OM can help you learn to more clearly feel what is happening in your body, learn what it is that you want, and how to ask for it. The OM practice is not intended to illicit climax. Instead the focus is to be in approval of what arises and for both partners to feel.
Can I do it by myself?
No. OM is a partnered practice, in which a stroker (could be a male or female) strokes a woman’s clitoris for 15 minutes. The point is to feel the sensation that arises when you bring your attention to the point of contact (the left index finger and the clitoris).
One of the things you learn in OM is to let the vigilance center quiet down enough that you can access your involuntary. The involuntary is where we enter a state of Orgasm. When a woman touches her own body she can’t fully let go enough to let herself reach the involuntary. (In the same way that you can’t tickle yourself.) We teach more about the cortex and the limbic system in our introductory How to OM class.
Why is it 15 minutes?
15 minutes is a sustainable repeatable amount of time. OM practitioners always use a timer. This helps both partners be able to relax enough to feel what arises and let go fully.
Why the upper left hand quadrant?
This is the most sensitive part of the human body. There are 8,000 nerve endings in the glans of the clitoris.
Is it only for couples?
OM is for both couples and for singles. Practitioners can choose to practice with whomever they feel comfortable. OM can be a way to build connection and intimacy between partners.
The Practice is also a way to access connection without anything extra. Saying yes to OM doesn’t mean a yes to a date or anything extra and beyond the OM. In a culture that practices commerce based relating, OM is a tool that let’s us choose to give from a place of fullness rather than obligation.
What if I don’t have a partner?
A partner is not required to take the How to OM class. Our classes are gender balanced and if you want to try the practice with someone you meet in the class and feel comfortable with, you can elect to do so. OM is completely volitional.
What’s in a nest?
A nest is the pillows and blankets that are set up to lay on during the practice. Here are the materials: a yoga mat, a zafu (meditation cushion), a blanket, and three or four small throw pillows. You’ll also need a small washcloth and vinyl or latex gloves, as well as lubricant.